So my boss said something today that was like an AH HA moment, as Oprah calls them. It was so profound I wanted to write it down here so I wouldn't forget. Of course she told me this over 10 hours and 4 cokes ago, so hopefully I can write it coherantly:)
Anyways the gist of it (man I should have written this down right after!!) was that we base our whole thoughts on someone from our first encounter. Kind of like a first impression. Say you go somewhere and come in contact with someone who is rude, or treats you badly in some way. You get an impression of them and put them in this box. Everytime you see them or have contact with them after that, even if they don't do anything "wrong" you are still judging their actions and trying to fit their actions and what they're doing into that box.
Those of you who have children will recognize those round containers which have shapes cut out on them. Such as stars, hearts, squares, ect. Then the child takes a piece like a star and tries to find the hole that it fits into. In all of my years of babysitting and nursery work I have seen so many kids trying to fit stars into square holes. It just doesn't work!
Thats kind of like peoples actions. You have an encounter with someone and automatically assume they are a square. SO everytime after that you try to put their piece in the square hole and it doesn't work because they are really a star. But you try SO HARD and don't give up on shoving that darned square piece in the wrong hole!
After she said that it was like a ton of bricks hit me! I am SO FAST to judge people. If they do something to hurt me, or are mean to me or disrespect me or basically do anything I don't like at all I judge them on that and I don't give them a chance to show me who they really are. Ironic since sometimes, i mean like hardly ever!! I'm a butthead and I expect people to give me a second chance, but heaven forbid I give others that same chance!
So that really made an impact on me. I'm really going to start to try and not judge people, well i shouldn't be at all! But thats another day and another blog. But seriously, I've got some work to do on judging people from first encounters.
I hope this blog and my sad little analogy made sense. I think next time my boss says somethig profound I will just have her write the blog so it actually makes sense to people other than me!!!!
Anyways the gist of it (man I should have written this down right after!!) was that we base our whole thoughts on someone from our first encounter. Kind of like a first impression. Say you go somewhere and come in contact with someone who is rude, or treats you badly in some way. You get an impression of them and put them in this box. Everytime you see them or have contact with them after that, even if they don't do anything "wrong" you are still judging their actions and trying to fit their actions and what they're doing into that box.
Those of you who have children will recognize those round containers which have shapes cut out on them. Such as stars, hearts, squares, ect. Then the child takes a piece like a star and tries to find the hole that it fits into. In all of my years of babysitting and nursery work I have seen so many kids trying to fit stars into square holes. It just doesn't work!
Thats kind of like peoples actions. You have an encounter with someone and automatically assume they are a square. SO everytime after that you try to put their piece in the square hole and it doesn't work because they are really a star. But you try SO HARD and don't give up on shoving that darned square piece in the wrong hole!
After she said that it was like a ton of bricks hit me! I am SO FAST to judge people. If they do something to hurt me, or are mean to me or disrespect me or basically do anything I don't like at all I judge them on that and I don't give them a chance to show me who they really are. Ironic since sometimes, i mean like hardly ever!! I'm a butthead and I expect people to give me a second chance, but heaven forbid I give others that same chance!
So that really made an impact on me. I'm really going to start to try and not judge people, well i shouldn't be at all! But thats another day and another blog. But seriously, I've got some work to do on judging people from first encounters.
I hope this blog and my sad little analogy made sense. I think next time my boss says somethig profound I will just have her write the blog so it actually makes sense to people other than me!!!!
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